Hard times and misfortunes are no respecter of person, race or status they are not afraid of attacking anyone so you have to be alert and on the lookout for them at all times.  I have been through my fair share and I know they are always in the shadows lurking to ambush me again.  So let us look at the 3 best ways to get strong if and when these menace attacks again.

Wow, we all know how frustrating these times can be we feel powerless, afraid, out of control and alone, however, regardless of how you feel this is the time to dig deep and find your inner strength.  How we perceive these times will give us the strength we need to push on and get over the hurdles of the current situation.

So instead of keeping a pity party and start accepting doom and gloom why not use this moment to our benefit? Don’t get me wrong it is natural to feel sad and okay to cry or get into yourself for a while.  We are all humans with emotions, but instead of dwelling in this space and keep focusing on the situation and on what was lost, think of what there is to gain. When you think positively, it helps you from not feeling stuck, and helps you look towards the future.

Here are 3 Powerful Ways to Get Strong Whenever Hardships Comes

This is an Opportunity to Grow

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The best ways to get strong in the midst of our hardship is to see hard times and misfortunes as opportunities to grow.  Starting seeing them as the opportunity to find different ways to make our lives better.  The catalyst that will give us that long lost freedom and happiness that we have been working for all our lives.

Some people accept the things that happen to them as a way of life but when you have this mindset, you are telling yourself there is nothing you can do in that situation, and you are giving away your power.

So instead of focusing on the problem at hand, which will only make you feel sad, confused and frustrated, focus on ways to get strong and solve the problems.  Think about the lessons to be learnt and how you can grow from it.  When you focus on growth, you can think more clearly on solutions, which is what you want.

If you want to get past the current hardships you have to be strong and feed your inner strength, persistent, hope and faith so they can grow to give you the strength you need to pull through and get to the next stage in your life.

I once saw a quote which says “You have within you, right now, everything you need to deal with whatever the world throws at you”   It has been one of my mantras ever since.

2. One of the Best Ways to Get Strong – Don’t Focus on the Problem, Find the Solution

You might say this is what they all say when they are not in the situation I will agree with you but when you put more energy on the problem you have less to find the solution.  When you have a problem the first thing to do is to think of ways to get out of it, you have to channel the energy to make it go away as quickly as possible.

I was once guilty of this thinking, I even tried getting out once by attempting suicide, and sometimes I slip back into that mode of thinking when my emotions are strong. Changing your mindset to focus on solutions will give you a sense of power, which will calm you because you feel in control. This, in turn, will help you think clearly and rationally, as opposed to emotionally. Furthermore, being in a more relaxed state of mind will allow you to absorb information more clearly so you can learn from the incident and become a better you.

3. Learn to Grow to Improve Your Character from your Hardships

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Find the best ways to get strong and try to learn what life is teaching you, the quicker you learn the faster the problems go away.  Question life on what is being tested during your hardship? Patience? Empathy? Communication? Understanding? Endurance? Determination? Love?

It will be up to you to be observant and wise in your deliberations throughout your hardships so that the lessons being taught are not missed.  It could be your once in a lifetime opportunity for greatness and you missed it because of self-pity.  Tough up, learn your lessons and pull through like a warrior.

We all have a reserve inside when life puts us to the test.  Pull-on it.

You are allowed to scream, you are allowed to cry but don’t give up.

In order to become the person you were meant to be, sometimes you have to go through hard times.  Learn the lessons life is teaching you grow and improve your character and pull through.

So when those trying times come don’t panic just slow down see if the lesson being taught is something you are not good at and find a way to learn it.  Find the best ways to get strong and something to lift your spirit, do something you love or good at to boost your confidence it will make you feel better.

The hardships you face gives you a chance to improve! If you suck at something, do something about it! Don’t wallow in self-pity. It’s not a fruitful exercise.

When hardships come your way, your perception is a powerful weapon that you must manipulate, don’t let it manipulate you. Ask yourself how can this help you grow, what positive opportunity is hidden in the hardship and focus on the solution, not the problem. Doing these things will put the power back in your court. Give it a shot, it changed my life!

What are your best ways to get strong? How do you keep going? How do you pull through in the face of hardships?  Share your thoughts and advice below

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RoDarrick · August 6, 2019 at 4:16 pm

This is an interesting article full of insightful tips on the best ways to get strong when confronted with the hurdles of life. I personally have faced so many ups and downs moments in my life and it wasn’t easy getting away from them but I never forget the lessons I learnt from each of them. Like you rightly stated, tough times don’t last but tough people do. I always see every hurdle as a stepping stone for greater achievements and successes. So I always face it with the faith that I will always come out victorious. Thanks

    admin · August 6, 2019 at 4:32 pm

    You are most welcome RoDarrick, it was my pleasure to share.

Misty Outdoors · August 6, 2019 at 4:20 pm

You offer excellent suggestions on how to overcome challenges!  I especially like what you said about seeing the challenge as an opportunity to grow.  There is a lot that can be learned from experiencing hardships.  I know I’ve had times where I couldn’t believe what was happening to me- and then later on turned out to be a blessing. And wow- you have shared something very personal with us too.  So happy that you were able to overcome your hardships. 

    admin · August 6, 2019 at 4:30 pm

    Thanks for taking the time out to comment.  I deem it a blessing to share with others with the hope that it will be a blessing.

Antonio · August 6, 2019 at 4:22 pm


As the saying goes ‘ When the going gets  tough, the tough gets going’. We all face challenges and how we overcome those challenges is the most important characteristic of being human.  You have highlighted 3 very potent methods. I believe that if you see solutions rather than problems, you can overcome everything.

I also believe that you need a good support framework, so that people can help each other. A problem shared, is a problem halved.   Keeping it to yourself will most certainly not help.

We need to reason  with a clear mind.



    admin · August 6, 2019 at 4:29 pm

    Thanks, Antonio, support is also important.  How could I miss that?  A good support group is definitely a plus.

Charles · August 6, 2019 at 4:32 pm

Thank you! A very interesting article. It got me thinking a lot because I thought of myself as a tough guy much more when I was younger and now that I’m a little older I’ve become actually more sensitive in some ways. I notice if my feelings are hurt and sometimes I experience a lot of emotional feelings like sadness and anger and that kind of thing.

I am glad because on the flip side of that, my sensitivity has helped me to actually be more considerate of others. I am so careful about being as nice as possible to everyone and being supportive where I can because I know how it feels to have someone hurt your feelings.

I have a lot of hardships in my life. I have good things going for me too but yeah I definitely have hardships. I guess everybody has trouble with different things and the things I have trouble with might not be trouble for a different person. Maybe like we all have a quota of how much difficulty we experience no matter what form it takes.

I personally don’t have any advice on how to deal with hardships. Grief is so complicated and I don’t think I could ever understand it. Feelings definitely come and go though so letting them stay when they’re there and letting them go when they go is something that happens I guess.

Yeah very interesting article and very nice website I will probably be back to read more in the future. I am not sure what else to say about the subject but it definitely got me thinking a lot which is good.

    admin · August 6, 2019 at 4:34 pm

    Thank you for taking the time to make this valuable contribution.  We all have our moments and one of the best ways to help each other is share.

Sumani · August 6, 2019 at 4:40 pm

Amazing, tough times normally make me feel like being worthless in life and am also wondering how I will handle it. You have just given me an idea as to how I can face obstacles so that I can have the best in my life. 

How did you come up with these ideas? I will like to learn more about how to handle the worst or downtime in various parts of my life. I can now see that these are lessons that I can learn from and not beat my self to death.

Thanks for sharing this information with everybody and I will be visiting this site regularly to learn more about my personal improvements.

My regards.

    admin · August 6, 2019 at 4:44 pm

    Hi Sumani,

    Most of these I learnt from life’s lessons.  Life has not always been good to me and there were many times when I felt like giving up.  take a look at my personal blog doreensmellie.com.

    I have been through a lot and I also learned a lot so now I choose to share to help someone else.

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